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Life after narcissistic abuse can be a tormenting prison of fear and shame. It’s discouraging, exhausting. It can end, and life can be good.
Not coping or managing. You can come out of this and have a good life. At home in yourself and in the world. Unafraid of what you want, and giving yourself permission to have it. Enjoying your relationships.
It doesn’t have to be some far-fetched, precarious project of rebuilding a sense of self. That self was never gone. You can leave this behind.
I understand this through and through, on a personal level. This work is what made the difference for me, and it’s what I do with clients now. It actually works.
If you’ve done the reading and the therapy and you’re still in it, you’re not at the end of the road. You’re at the point where this kind of work starts.
This conversation is thirty minutes on Zoom to find out whether we should work together. There’s nothing to prepare. You tell me where you are, I tell you how I work, and then you decide. Nobody gets talked into anything.
“I think back to where I was when we first started, and I can hardly recognize that person now.”
Testimonials
What clients say about the work.
“He has a way of plucking a single throwaway comment from my ramblings that unravels some false belief I didn't realize I was holding. I think back to where I was when we first started, and I can hardly recognize that person now.”
I've been seeing Jim for a few years now and he's been an incredibly stable presence, through some major life transitions. I think back to where I was, when we first started, and I can hardly recognize that person now.
The biggest change is that he's helped me to shift my inside voice to be more positive. Sometimes I can hear his voice in my head (figuratively, of course) reminding me to not 'should' myself. The intention being that it's healthier to be patient with myself, rather than just focusing on unrealistically high expectations about where I think I 'should' be right now.
He frequently reminds me to be more physically present in my body and to acknowledge the connection between my mental and physical states. It's been one of the best ways of getting out of a rumination spiral, despite my efforts to self-sabotage.
He has a way of plucking a single throwaway comment from my ramblings, in a way that unravels some false belief that I didn't realize I was holding. It feels like he just gets me, without me having to explain how my brain works. He hears the parts that I don't even realize I'm communicating.
Sometimes it's a little annoying, because I just wanted to crack a joke and gloss over the trauma, but he knows how to bring me back to a point that will facilitate healing, while still maintaining a great sense of humor.
I always feel like I have space to direct our sessions, as much as I need, because he opens them by asking what I want for myself that day. I've received deep support and encouragement, but I've never felt pushed beyond what I was ready for. He's even good about checking back in, after the fact, when we have more challenging sessions.
I've had mental health providers who didn't give enough feedback or redirection, and it has sometimes created a pattern of endless venting with no clear resolution in sight. My work with Jim has helped me to feel like everything can be worked through, with patience and self-awareness.
I'm even starting to notice that the quality of compassion I get from Jim is coming out in my other relationships. When I extend more patience to myself, it's easier to be patient with other people. I've definitely repeated some of his phrases to loved ones, when offering support.
As a whole, my framework for managing my mental health has shifted. My self-esteem is a lot better and my inside voice is kinder.
I would highly recommend booking a session with him.
“For the first time, I feel like counseling is actually helping me feel safe enough to connect. I was originally hesitant to work with a male therapist because of my trauma history, but I've felt really at ease with Jim.”
I found Jim after stumbling upon NARM therapy and feeling like it was exactly what I needed. I had just done an intake with a therapist, and the session felt cold and re-traumatizing, so I cancelled with that therapist and reached out to Jim. I'm so glad I did!
I'm someone who tends to stress about "doing therapy right," so I can get anxious about what's worth bringing up in a session. Jim is really patient and nonjudgmental, which has helped me a lot in letting go of that pressure and just trusting my process.
Even though I originally sought him out because of his NARM training, he also has a lot of experience with other therapy approaches, and it's been great to see him bring those in when it fits. It makes the work feel really supportive and flexible, not one-size-fits-all.
Our sessions feel relaxed and comfortable, like we're equals in the room. We even laugh sometimes, which makes it feel really human and down-to-earth, while still being therapeutic and professional. For the first time, I feel like counseling is actually helping me feel safe enough to connect.
I'll also add that I was originally hesitant to work with a male therapist because of my trauma history, but I've felt really at ease with Jim. That says a lot about the kind of space he creates.
I'm really grateful to be working with Jim. It's been a meaningful part of my healing.
“Jim doesn't just coach from the surface, he goes to the root, and that's where real transformation begins.”
Working with Jim was one of the most transformative experiences of my life. Over the course of our sessions, my life took a complete 180.
Jim held space for me in a way that felt both safe and empowering. He helped me face deep fears that had been holding me back for far too long, and guided me, without pressure, but with clarity, toward the bold decisions I knew I had to make.
His coaching challenged me, but in the best possible way. I found the courage to take action where I had been stuck for months (maybe even years), and those actions have since brought me more alignment, peace, and purpose than I thought possible. Jim doesn't just coach from the surface, he goes to the root, and that's where real transformation begins.
If you're ready to truly shift your mindset, step into your power, and make decisions that change your life for the better, I can't recommend Jim enough. This isn't just coaching, it's a catalyst for your next evolution.
“Jim is an excellent life coach when it comes to recovering from family trauma, narcissistic parents, and other complex trauma and its effects.”
Jim is an excellent life coach when it comes to recovering from family trauma, narcissistic parents and other complex trauma and its effects.
I was suffering from a serious bout of anxiety and depression, but after a series of sessions with Jim, the deeper issues resolved and the results have been amazing.
I highly recommend Jim to anyone who wants to heal from complex trauma and deep-seated emotional abuse. He's a great resource.
“I felt like I had a partner working alongside me rather than being alone in a dynamic that felt bigger than me.”
Jim's knowledge and compassion helped me know I was with the right person because he understood my experiences and challenges.
When there were aspects beyond his personal experience, his curiosity and tenacity to figure it out with me were what kept me moving forward.
I felt like I had a partner working alongside me rather than being alone in a dynamic that felt bigger than me.
The work I was able to do with him ended up serving as a ramp, launching me in a new direction that has been incredible and life-changing!
Clients sometimes use words like "therapy" or "counseling." My work is coaching, not licensed psychotherapy.
Jim McGee
NARM-Informed Trauma Recovery Coach
I came to this work through personal experience with these dynamics. I did years of therapy and understood everything except why I was still living from it. NARM is what changed that, and it’s what I work with now. For four years I also led a private support group for 500 survivors of narcissistic abuse, meeting every week.
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